In Nineteen Minutes, Josie is in an abusive relationship with Matt Royston. He repeatedly takes advantage of her under the pretense of love.
Some people believe that if a boy wants to have sex, his girlfriend owes it to him. What do you think about that idea? Do you agree or disagree? Why? How does that idea make you feel?
Absolutly not! Just because you are dating doesn't mean you owe it to your boyfriend to have sex. If your boyfriend think, you need to get a new one who respect you and doesn't just want you get in "you pants". You also need respect for yourself because it is your desion and you owe it to yourself to have sex only when you are ready. No one can tell you when you are ready execpt yourself.
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the idea of someone owing sex to another person just because their dating or in general makes me sick. you dont have to have sex just because of a guy buying you a gift or just because hes there. i think the girl should be in control. us guys are too much. we want more and more. yea sure there a guys that can handle themselves but people like matt royston cant get enough and too much of something can either be bad for you or good for you, but at the most part its bad. so i would have to disagree with the idea of a girl owing it to a guy to have sex.-jefe
ReplyDeleteand we should talk about prostitution in the class.
I think that in a sexual relationship, the girl should be the one in control of things. They should decide when their ready to do whatever their doing.
ReplyDeleteThe first time Matt and Josie did it Matt was a totoal deusch back and took antvatage of her when she was emotionaly compromised after being dissed off by her Dad who she had never had a relationship with.
All though, after that, I gotta say Josies pretty much an idiot. Besides that one time where she made sure Matt would have protection, Josie never had the guts to stand up for herself. She let him do whatever the heck he wanted to him. I can't have respect for that either.
-G.p
I've been thinking. Matt Royston, Drew Girad, Courntey Ignatio, that group of people. How much expirience do they have on the other side of things, being bulllied themselves? Do you think anyone ever came up to Matt Royston and called him a faggot? I bet so.
I've also being thinking about the emotions tied down to sex, and it seems like theirs a great deal of attachment and love tied down to the whole thing, except in one specific area of occupation.
G.P
eah what Jef what saying, guys want more and more and don't know when to stop
ReplyDeleteso girls like Josie should show some dignity and be like hey knock it off.
It's almost like Josie doesn't have a problem with it, she won't say anything. All though we know better, and she defintaly is being manipulated. But is Matt Royston really that clever? How dumb can you be to fall for this guys stuff? and also, on the same line of prostitution theirs also pornagraphy witch is controversial too. Maybe we should pick up on it in class, if it's not too mature of a topic, but we've all handled alot so far so.
-G.P.
Hey guys,
ReplyDeleteWe need to watch the language. I edited your comments. Mr. Carroll wants school rules to apply here. I like what you guys are saying and believe we can debate it. Why is pornography and prostitution pertinent?
Ask yourselves this, Josie needs so badly to be accepted she is willing to give up what is sacred to her under the guise of love. She gives into Matt because he is a manipulator.
So I ask, Is it harder to be guy or a girl when it comes sex, relationships, and dating?
hmmm well i dont know what pertinent is so im not gonnA answer that. but i think girls have tougher situation than guys. us guys will wip down our pants and put on a condom and be ready to go. girls have to worry about a child. what if the condom breaks? well dont worry i can get an abortion or i could live with it and have my boyfreind dump me which would leave me alone in this world with a cold harded killer...the baby. im not saying babies are bad but at the age joie is i dont think it would be any good if she had a little guy that reminded her day by day of herself or matt royston. and girls take relationships harder when the guy is gone... i think they do. soryy people im basing it off of movies. and in the movies ive seen girls are bawling there eyes out when they get dumped. sad isnt it.
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sorry for the condom usage if you consider that bad.
Matt takes advantage of josie most of the time when shes weak and he knows he'll be able to get somewhere with her at that time. Well Matt is an idoit and i thought he was making a pretty faggish move when he took josie's verginity away when they had sex on pine needles on the side of the road. matt deffanitly should have treated josie with a lot more respect and waited for herto be comfortable with it and be ready for it amd josies not that much of a bitch to matt in the first place so yeah they loved each other a lot, but matt treated josie like crap and i have no idea how she put up with it and i disagree with with the question because i really don't think guys should make the choice it should be all up to the girl and when shes ready to have sex. Yeah there probably will be guys that do that and don't really give a crap and love doing it, but i'm not i'll wait for the girl to be ready and won't take advantage of her ever!
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a girl does not owe it to a man if he wants to have sex it is not his desision to have sex it is both of there desisions if one does not want to hace sex the other person must respect that and not take advantage of a person when they are weak-jimmy
ReplyDeleteLanguage is not offensive to me, but may be to others:)
ReplyDeleteA girl chooses when they have sex, period. Guys always want to take things to the next step even after the first time they do something after they just took another step. (if that makes sense) Sex is definately chosen by the woman. But a girl should understand if a guy talks about sex with her if they are goin out or somethin. Because guys have their needs and they like to talk about sex, so girls should cut them some slack for that. But the girl has the power to say no... just sometimes they just dont use it.
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I think having sex owed to guys is very offensive to girls. Its not like they are the ones that control the relationship. It takes two for the relationship to work. Girls should definately have the say if they want to have sex or not. Well that is if they are being pressured. Guys do always want to try to go further. The girls just have to stick up for themselves. If the guy disagrees with a woman and still tries to have sex maybe he isnt good enough. I feel that when im ready i would let my boyfriend know, but if im not i belive that i shouldn't be taunted or pressured into doing anything i do not want to do. I understnad what Robbie says about guys needing to talk about sex. But just because a girl and guy talk about it does not mean anything. Josie should have definately tooken control and told Matt to knock it off or she should have talked to her mom about it. It would have been much betetr then dealing what she went through.
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duuuude, Jimmy your comment was great.
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No way!! A girl should never owe something to anyone espically sex. Just because you are in a relationship that doesnt mean that you owe a guy sex. It angers me that some people think this way. I cant stand Matt Royston! He always takes advantage of Josie,he makes me sick. Just because a guy is good looking like Matt Royston and he seems sweet just beacuse he likes you doesnt mean that he wont take advantage of you. Us girls should never owe anything to any guy. I loveee what Jeff said!!!
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BS!!!!!!!!!!!!! Girls don't own anyone sex. Like Mr.G said: Girls are giving themselves to the guy, so she needs to know that he gave himself too. I feel like a bunch of pigs made this. I'm furious! Women are NOT slabes of meat you can just use!
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nooo wayyy hosay. Sex isnt something that girls will just do with guys. there needs to be a connection of love. If a guy thinks that girls owe it to them then thats kind of using the girl just to get with them. it makes me feel sick that some dude would ever think that a girl would owe sex to them.
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Yo Peeps I dont think a girl needs to have sex or anything with a gross teenage guy. I really dont know what to say on this topic.
ReplyDeleteWoj
A girl never owes a guy to have sex with a guy. I think it is always up to the girl to say yes or no. The guy is not in control of haveing sex. when they do have it you usally have a conection or are dating for a long time to have sex.
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the girls doesn't own the man sex because it should a two person relaship if the girl does what to to something the guy should be ok with her opening and some goes with the guy. And why is the girl own the guy sex not the other way around? all in all i feel that it is more of the girl choice
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Nick Fan you took the words right out of my mouth. Its called a relationship because ot takes two people and they both have to agree. No if, and or buts ( ahaha butt )
ReplyDelete---Trent ( SPORTS !!! ) Knight
The girl never owes her boyfriend sex. Even though matt and josie are dating doesnt mean that she owes him anything.
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A girl doesn't owe a guy anything.If the girl doesn't want to have sex with the guy there's nothing a guy can do about it.Josie could of stopped Matt,shes not stupid she new what was going on,she might have not been able to stop matt when he put his hand over her mouth,but she could of told someone after that or broke up with him,but i don't know like josie thinks she's in love with him and if she breaks up with him she slides down on the social todum poll.So it's not right for a guy to aspect sex,but it would still be hard in Josie's situation.
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you do not owe anything to anyone, but yourself. you deserve to respect yourself enough to know when it is the right time. sex takes two, not one: it affects the both of you (for the most part in different ways) and it also effects everyone around you as well. for guys, they get a pat on the back or praise for getting a girl into to bed. but for a girl, you come off as a whore or slut. why is that? there are so many different things that can happen, thats its hard to list them, so i will not. the idea that you owe someone sex, just pisses me off. why is sex so important? what does it really prove, that you can get with a girl when shes weak, or charming her, and by threatening or hitting them? does that really make a big tough man, by being a con-artist? i think sex is kinda like a plus to the realationship, not the whole thing. you should love a person for who they are, not what they have or what the can "offer". i think some people need to get a life. because all they do is talk about doing all these sexually and repulisive things, and thats all they talk about. come on, really, that doesn't attract girls, at all. sex should come with time, once you get in a realationship it shouldn't be the first thing you do. give yourself enough respect to know when you are ready, if you have doubts or don't want to, than SPEAK UP!! you shouldnt have to sacrifce yourself to impress or keep someone. if you aren't ready and you tell them that, and if they can wait for you, thats the kind of realationship you belong in. not one where they force you into having sex. you know you own limits, dont let any one tell you what they are, how you are, or what you should be. because you know, and dont let them take anything away that your not ready to give up !
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No way a girl owes her boyfriend sex even if they been for 3 months. I think of a relationship being two people or like or love each other and decide on things together(key word together). So if the girl said no im not ready to do this or something then that guy should understand and respect her desicion and wait till she is ready, but if he doesn't then she should think about breaking up with him. A relationship takes two not one.
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Also in part of a song by Taylor Swift. These two lines at the end of the song fifteen, i think about Josie. "Abigail gave everything she had to a boy who changed his mind and we both cried.
ReplyDeleteCause when you're fifteen and somebody tells you that they love you you're gonna believe them"
I think if Matt were still alive and they kept dating she would end up being Abigail in the song. idk i was just listening to it and it made me think of this.
Kim
PS- Dani i really like your comment =D
Proposterous. That is rediculus that a girl who dates a guy owes him to have sex. To me that should be the girls desicion. A girl never owes a guy anything for him dating her. I mean considering the girl has the more risky bargin having sex. Getting pregnant that young is not good. It just makes me mad that some guyss can assume that just like Matt from 19 minutes and it also ticks me off if the girl goes along with it. If you don't want to do it don't . Don't let someone make that important choice for you. It simply ticks me off.
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Well I think this is a simple answer that everyone has already explained....a girl doesn't owe a guy anything. By even asking a girl if she can give a part of herself to him and she says no the conversation should end. But, if he continues and pulls some crap about how she owes him and that she would be nothing with out him. He is pretty much giving her an excuse to break up with him. And if she isn't strong enough to do it she should tell someone. This is just sick but no one finds the chance to say how this rape is taking the lives of many women. I'm not sure if I answered it right...hopefully I did?
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Girls will never owe guys sex. Will they feel they owe them sex...probably. Girls are pressured into feeling like they owe there boyfriends sex, because like Matt Royston, guys make the girls feel like if they don't have sex with him then they are over. Girls feel that if they don't keep there boyfriend happy then they are going to leave them for some other girl who would go along with what they wanted. I'm not saying that its just the guys fault because it's not. Girls shouldn't just sit back and let that happen to them. Once it happens they have to tell someone. I don't know what it's like to be in an abusive relationship and I hope I never have to, but girls that are in one need to get out. I understand that it would be hard, especially if you had a boyfriend like Matt Royston, to end the relationship, but seriously your health is more important than any guys view of you. Like Mr G. says us girls owe it to ourselves to make it special. We shouldn't feel pressured and we definately shoulld be able to say how we want it to go and we should be able to say NO at anytime we want.The idea that some girls think they owe it to there boyfriends sex is just awful. I really hope that I never have to deal with any kind of abusive boyfriend.-Taylor
ReplyDeletethe girl in my view dose not owes the guy $#@% no guy on earth should preasure a girl into sex or if they abuse a girl i hope they end up like matt roiston just saying
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