Our class will watch Oprah soon enough and have an open discussion about the emotional aspects tied with romantic teen relationships but in the meantime...How is sex portrayed on television, in the movies or the book Nineteen Minutes? Is it accurate? Is it helpful to you? Does it influence you in any way? How does it affect you? What do you think about it? How would you change it?
most people on tv show it as its nothing. It dosen't matter and is nothing to do with love, but to gain credibility with thier 'friends' or group. I think most guys do it to show thier a "man". To get the most beautiful girl in bed with them. Thier smart enough to get her at a vunerable moment and then ... I think thier lower than the scum of the earth to be honest and to use someone like that is unhuman. -marci d
ReplyDeleteIn some movies people sell it like an advertizment, some movies they make is romantic, and in some movies its just like 19 minutes; getting to the girl when they are at their lowest point. there are sluts and whores in the world who dont care and just plays it as a game. uses exuses like "you only have one life, so live it" to make things okay. when love is romantic it could be the best thing in the world and is spent with someone the means alot to you. not just some guy you randomly meet. when you take a girl and use her you may think that she'll get over it. but its not like that. just because you can get overe it doesn't mean she can. it hurts and doesn't go away. like if you got stung my a wasp. it hurts for a long time till your so drugged up on medicane [you have to take medication to get the vinum out of your system] that you dont feel anything anymore and you go into this unthoughtful, unimagenable world were you make yourself... different. your so afraid to get hurt like that again that you dont know what to do. so you just stop, stop thinking, stop talking, stop relizing the truth. it just eats up every little bit of you and you dont know what to do. your screaming s.o.s but no one comes. no one even notices.
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Movies usually show that when a wife is having an affair or a boyfriend is cheating. It's never about the love. If I could change one thing it would be to see less movies like that and more with people that are happily together and they do it for love. Not to get the prettiest girl or the hottest guy.
ReplyDeleteIn some movies they even go so far as a guy just wants to get a girl in bed and that is just sick. That girl should have the choice, just like anyone that was decent would have given her. Movies should show girls and guys sticking up for themselves if they are in a situation they don't want to be in. They should show that you do have the option to just say no. That's not something that you can be pressured into, or at least it shouldn't be. This is something that once you do it you can't take it back. Whatever happened it will stay with you for the rest of your life. Girls and Guys shouldn't just be throwing themselves at the opposite sex. They should care who they are with. The movies should show people actually thinking about what they are doing. It seems that movies keep showing things that are bad dicisions. There should be at least one movie where the person makes the right choice shouldn't there? Why do they always cave to the person that says they need them and want them right that second even though that person knows he just saying that to get her in bed? Why do people always cave when he or she says I love you so much? If they really loved you would they really pressure you like that?-Taylor
Sex on T.V. is like apples on apple trees, very common and very expected.
ReplyDeleteIts portrayed on T.V. like it's nothing. To be honest, I was already exposed and had a substantial knowledge about sex since the 5th grade. To me, it's just part of life. Everyone reading this right now was created by sex (my self excluded because I was told I landed in the backyard with a note attached to toe saying "keep him, we don't want him".)
Is sex on T.V. accurate?
-I have no idea, I'm 14 and can't even be near a girl without peeing a pants.
Is it helpful to me?
-I guess, I mean, American as a society has been raised sex since about the turn of the century, to me, it's pretty normal.
Does it influence me in any way?
-I think it's influenced my life without me
knowing.
What do I think about it?
I think it's part of life. Are kids being exposed to it to early? maybe, but whats the harm, knowledge is power.
How would I change it?
I would hand out condoms at schools besides that, nothing
As always, feel free to trash what I just said and please tell me were I'm wrong.
-----Trent
It kinda depends on what your watching. If it's a comedy like american pie or knocked up sex is just a matter of "LETS GET LAID!" but there are lots of love storys where it goes deep into it. Nineteen minutes has a preety realalistic example of a first time situation. Matt Royston was just thinking about getting laid while Josie didn't have any real control over the situation, I bet both of them will probaly regret what happened a couple years later, or maybe like alot of years later. I'm curious, we know that Josie was unexpirienced sexualy at that moment, but what about Matt Royston? Was that his first time as well? I think having sex for the first time is the main thing we should worry about it. I almost want to say that I feel as if after it's done, it's done.I hear that in college sex is just a game with different pieces that need to be dealt with differently, similar to social contracts or sterotypes in highschool, and youl come across plenty of people with different views on things, like virgins, pims or players, not to be innapropiate but just real horney people (maybe known to you as sluts or manwhores) and sometimes you'l even come across real jerks who are actual v card collectors. I would like to restate that that's what I've heard, not believe in, I haven't even been to college. I do think movies bertray an accurate and virtual reflection of what really happens sometimes in the real world. That doens't make it right, but maybe it's soceity that has things screwed up, not just the media. I don't think that I've ever been directly influenced from T.V. I've said I'm gonna go get laid because they did it "American Pie" as many times as I've said I'm going to go lick a piece of horses poop because they did it "Jackass" I think that sex is a basic need of a human's hormones, but it takes alot of maturity and responsibility to handle. If it could be different I think it should be taken less for granted. This is a really long comment...
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Personally, I think sex on tv is over used. I mean I guess i wouldn't really know if it is how life is really portrayed (I am only 14 and thinking of it now is a little crazy, but that's beside the point). Maybe I am wrong, maybe people have sex all the time, how would I know?
ReplyDeleteLooking at Trent's comment (sorry for pointing this out and putting you on the spot!!!), I totally agree with that kids maybe exposed to sex a little to early, but I also think that you can't wait until you are a Junior in High School then finally have "the talk". I think that kids should learn around 7th-8th grade because knowledge is power! You can never learn too early!
Now that I am really thinking about it, the show Secret Life of an American Teenager popped into my head. I don't know if I am right, but I think that this doesn't represent and AMERICAN teenager. I mean common, I don't think that I have ever seen or heard about a 15 year old girl being pregnant.
-Caroline R
With what caroline is saying.. at the end. I know a lot of people who are only 8th graders or high schoolers who are pregnant. But half of them it;s because they got drunk at a party or were forced to. Im not going to say who.. i dont think you would know them anyway... but some one i know is a freshman and he got his girlfriend pregnant. They didn't even talk it over. She just went and spent 300 some odd dollars and got an abortion like there was no meaning in life. she was used and was forced into doing something she didn't want to do. which resulted in her getting an abortion because she no longer cared. it tore her apart and she doesn't deserve for something like that to happen to her. but she can't go back on it now. once something like that happens its gone. you cant take it back. its a womb that never heals for her... and thats not right
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to t.v i dont think it makes a difference. why would it? it's just people acting. Unless you find out on your own it shouldn't change what you think.
hollyy.
i agree with trent when he says that it is just a part of life, but to me it is a little too much, like a major part in our lives. all the guys go aroung the school making sexual remarks about girls and to girls trying to be funny, when it is actually just discusting and repulsive. does it really matter if you have sex, i mean what does it prove. that you can con people into getting into bed with you, taking someone at a low moment, or trying to get your friends to aprove of you. like mr. g says, you have to be good enough for yourself. there is no reason to have sex with someone just to tell people you did. in this one tv show, two and a half men, this guy charlie is always having sex with a different plastic bimbo every night, and even though that he will not admit it, he feels empty inside, and is trying to fill the gap by having more sex, but it just makes it worse. i think i am a little to young to know about sex as much as i do, the way the kids put it makes it sound discusting, when it should be a strong and emotional connection between you and your partener. its kinda over my head to say that for being this young, but it is true. talking about sex has helped me go up in a sense, its made me realize what it can do to you and how it effects you. it has changed the way i look at it. i mean i found out what it was in sixth grade, and i dont think that it is right. sex shouldnt be a driving force in our life, it should be a little bonus i guess you could say. to me, the longer you wait and the stronger the love you share, the better off you will be. it is a very important moment, one that you will remember for the rest of your life, so dont waist it in a crapy way. treat yourself with enough respect to make a lasting and wonderful memory. knowledge is power, but the way it is taught and talked about, can make learning it a whole different experince.
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I have to agree with Holly and Caroline in the fact that people should know what would happen to them if they followed through with having sex with there boyfriend. They need to understand that they will have a good chance to get pregnant if they have sex. Now I think that most of the girls that got pregnant at 14 or 15 have to know that that would happen, so why do they follow through? Like I said before people are being "pressured" into having sex. They don't want to make there partner upset so they follow through. It will effect both of them if they have sex, but what they aren't thinking of is how much. I think that knowledge is power as well, but it's how you use that knoledge that is important. If you don't use the knoledge then how is it power. You have to use knoledge and think it through before you do anything.
ReplyDeleteI tink that Caroline made a good point when she said that we can't wait until highschool to learn about this, but I think I would have to disagree when she says that you can never learn to early. I wouldn't want to have learned about this untill I was mature enough to understand. You can't just go and tell 2nd graders what sex is. I think they wouldn't understand and would want to try it out themselves and that could be bad for them. So I think we need to learn this knoledge before highschool definately, but we shouldn't learn it until after we are mature enough to handle the facts. Until we are old enough to understand and ask questions. -Taylor
I also have to agree with Danielle. She makes a good point and I agree. -Taylor
ReplyDeleteOn tevelsion I think that sex is esposed a little to much. Sex on tevelsion is kinda like a game. By saying that, every guy wants to get with a girl and when your a guy thats what they talk about. I dont know if thats true but thats how its portrayed on tevelsion. Sex on tv is never true love. On tv they make it seem like a sport, everyone is doing it. I dont know why you would have sex with someone that you truly don't love. Going back to what I said about how its a game in the book were reading Ninteen Minutes Matt Royston makes it seem like it is a game. He's what 16-17 and he took something very special from Josie. I dont know how it can get much worse but it does. Matt took advantage of Josie. She was weak and he took that and made it a game. Matt didnt care that she was hurt he just wanted to get with her to tell all his friends beacsue that is the kinda guy Matt Royston is.
ReplyDelete-Sex on tv is nowhere near accurate.
-Its not helpful at all. You cant take what they say.
-This dosent influence me in any way. I know that its just tv and you cant take what they say.
-This dosent effect me. But it kinda angers me bacaue they on tv they very see the real meaning of sex/love.
-Im not sure what you mean when you say what do you think about it. But if you mean how do you feel about it. Its not right. I mean tv is tv and I love it but why cant producers ever show love as real love.
-I would change it by changing the tv shows but its just tv shows and you cant folow them about love. You can try but I dont think your giong to get very far.
Plaese feel free to coment I want to know what you think.
-Cammy
I agree with Caroline, although I have heard of under age pregnancies. It is common for you to see highschool girls walking around with round stomachs, maybe not in our highschool, but I have heard about highschool pregnancies and abortions. Personally I am against abortion and believe that you should understand the consequences, and may become pregnant if you're having sex and you're 15. Everyone knows the consequences, it's a given. Anyway, onto the next question. I believe sex is portrayed on tv like a kids show is aired on nickelodeon. It's become so common on certain tv shows, that when you watch it over and over again your body becomes immune to it eventually. I think it's desgusting to see married men and women having sex with someone other than their spouse and actually allowing someone to film it. -Rachael
ReplyDeleteI agree totally with what Cammy said! She hit the nail on the head, teen aged guys only have a one track mind (<-- so I'm told!) and all the can think about is "hitting the jackpot". Being a girl this is a HUGE turn off!
ReplyDeleteCammy also mention that its a game for guys, again another HUGE turn off! Girls don't want to be used for guys only "manly hood", they want to be someone special to that particular guy! Also, girls don't want to be a some sort of a prize that after you "win" you go and talk about with your friends, somethings you should know are personal!
Caroline R
i think sex on tv just makes people feel more comfortable with it because its so common. It is more than just two people "doin it" it can be taking love to a deeper level, creating a child, or even a huge mistake in someones life. I don't necessarily think that its bad that sex is on tv because it is very ordinary and it should be discussed openly and maturely in my opinion. Tv can never accurately portray sex because its just two celebrities kissing and junk because its their job and theres gotta be more to it than that. There's a show where a teenage girl gets pregnant and her life just flows perfectly and it's by far the most unrealistic show i've ever seen, and that show i wouldnt just change it, i would completely remove it from tv! Sex on tv influencing kids/teen.. well i don't think there is a huge effect. Most teens aren't going to have a child in 8th grade or high school (not saying that it doesn't happen because ive seen teen prgnancy very upclose and personal) but sex on tv doesn't effect me. There is no right time to have sex when it happens it happens and just keep your fingers crossed that nothing goes wrong and that its what you want.
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ps- there is probably SOOO many errors.. sorry
I think that sex has been getting a little more exposed on TV over the years. i mean, theres so many advertisements about "male enhancement". what is a 7 year old going to say when he or she sees that? Kids keep learning about this stuff at a younger and yougner age these days. Like trent said, I've known about sex since at least 5th grade. Is it accurate? No. Not from my point of view, but what do i know? im an 8th grader, not a grown man who knows more about sex. since im not 100% sure if its accurate or not on TV i cant really say that its helpful to me in any way, shape, or form. Most of the stuff i've learned is from other people. not TV. I cant really say that it influences me either. I know that its just actors on TV "acting" so i really could care less whatever it is that they're doing. It affects me a little because im somewhat concerned about how exposed it is getting. How young can a person be before they start learning about sex? or start seeing it on TV, i realize that there isnt commercials for "male enhancement" on the little kid channels like cartoon network or something, but what if they're watching espn? i always see them on espn. i just think its getting a little out of hand with media companies and their advertising. If i could change it I'd be like hey. stop. i dont really know how i would change something like this though cause it would affect everyone... i think
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I listened to both classes today and I am impressed with your ability to articulate the type of meaningful questions that make this discussion worthwhile.
ReplyDeletesorry about my comment Mr.G, as I was writing it I kinda thought i was off topic, but after the Q&A
ReplyDeletewe had toady, It was like speaking Spanish to a Chinese man.
T Dawg. Knight
yo my great grandmon had my grandma when she was 14. my grandma had my mom when she was 15. and my mom gad me when she was 17 i think. but yea theres nothing wrong with have kids or sex as long as you can keep the kid alive. o and none of my famly was mistaken babies we were all meant to be. take that sex. -jefe
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ReplyDeletei like what jeff said and i think hes right as long as you can provide the kids with a roof over there heads, food, water, and love and care. sex is a normal part of life if people didnt have sex then you or i or Mr g or Mrs carr wouldnt be here right now. im not saying sex is wrong all im aying is dont have sex at 13 or 14 years old
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nice vocabulary mr. G.. hmmmmmm articulate haha
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